The Root of Everything:What It Means to Truly Value Yourself
Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught to be good.
Good daughters. Good mothers. Good friends. Good girls.
We learned to be helpful, kind, pretty, small. To please. To give. To say yes when we meant no, and smile when we were breaking inside.
And in the midst of all that being good…
We forgot how to be whole.
We forgot our worth.
Not the kind of worth that gets handed to you with praise or performance.
Not the kind that fluctuates with your weight, your workload, or your relationship status.
Not the kind that relies on how needed or productive or wanted you are.
I’m talking about the worth that was stitched into your bones long before the world got to you.
The worth that says:
You matter because you are.
Why We Lose Sight of Our Value
Most of us were never taught how to value ourselves.
We were taught how to be valuable to others.
So we learned to meet everyone else’s needs before our own.
We ignored our intuition to avoid rocking the boat.
We confused love with loyalty, even when it meant abandoning ourselves.
Self-worth became conditional — tied to how much we could do, how well we could perform, how little we could need.
But here's the sacred truth…
Your worth is not a transaction. It is a truth. A birthright. A flame that never goes out, even when it flickers.
What It Really Means to Value Yourself
To value yourself is to say:
“I honour what I feel. I trust what I know. I matter.”
It’s not just bubble baths and boundaries (though those are beautiful too).
It’s choosing yourself — again and again — in a world that taught you not to.
It’s saying no without guilt.
It’s resting without apology.
It’s holding your joy and your grief with the same reverence.
It’s meeting your unmet parts with compassion instead of shame.
It’s breaking cycles, not because you’re broken, but because you’re becoming.
It’s a quiet revolution of remembrance.
A Personal Reflection
There was a time when I measured my worth by how useful I was.
By how much I could hold, fix, do, offer, create.
But it left me empty. Disconnected. Resentful.
I realised that valuing myself wasn’t selfish — it was sacred.
That I wasn’t here to earn love. I am love.
And that every time I chose myself, I was choosing a more honest world.
Journal Prompts for You
Take some time this weekend and sit with these reflections:
Where in my life am I still waiting to be “enough”?
What would it look like to truly value myself — even when no one is watching?
What am I no longer available for, now that I remember my worth?
What part of me needs the most tenderness right now?
A Gentle Invitation
Inside the Sacred Sister Sanctuary, we’re exploring exactly this —
how to come home to yourself, your needs, your rhythms… and your worth.
There’s no pressure. No fixing. No timelines.
Just a sacred space to return, breathe, and remember:
You are already enough.
With you always,
Laura x
And don’t forget to check out our podcast, this week I am really smashing this Self Worth reality into the park, because it needs to be spoken about!
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