Healing the Sister Wound: A Return to Belonging
There’s a wound that most women carry — one we don’t always have words for. It shows up in quiet moments of mistrust, comparison, and loneliness. It’s the ache of feeling left out, the sting of judgment, the fear of being too much or not enough.This is the sister wound — and it’s one of the deepest forms of disconnection we experience as women.
What Is the Sister Wound?
The sister wound is the inherited pain that lives between women — the result of generations of separation, suppression, and survival.
It’s what makes us second-guess other women’s intentions.
It’s what keeps us competing instead of collaborating.
It’s what makes us shrink our light so we don’t outshine someone else.
It often begins early: at school, in friendship groups, within families.
We learn that love can be conditional.
That belonging can be taken away.
That another woman’s success might mean our failure.
But this didn’t start with us.
The sister wound is ancestral. It’s cultural.
It was born from a time when women were divided to survive.
When standing together could be dangerous.
When witch hunts taught us that speaking truth or standing out could cost us everything.
For centuries, we were taught to seek validation from men, not each other.
To compare, compete, and conform.
And though the world has changed, those imprints still live in our nervous systems and relationships today.
How It Shows Up
You might feel it as a subtle discomfort around other women.
Or as a deep loneliness, even when surrounded by friends.
Maybe you’ve experienced betrayal or exclusion, and now find it hard to trust again.
Or maybe you’re the one who keeps walls up — afraid to let anyone in too close, just in case.
It can look like judgment, gossip, people-pleasing, overgiving, or constant self-doubt.
But beneath all of that, it’s really a longing — to belong, to be seen, to be held by women who understand.
The Truth Beneath the Wound
When we strip away the layers of fear and pain, what’s left is something ancient and sacred — a remembering that we belong to each other.
Before the systems that divided us, women gathered.
We sat in circles.
We shared stories, food, and medicine.
We celebrated the cycles of birth, death, and rebirth together.
We were each other’s mirrors, healers, and midwives — for life itself.
The wound may be collective, but so is the healing.
Every time a woman chooses compassion over comparison,
listening over judgment,
truth over pretending —
she begins to restore what was lost.
This is the work of remembering.
This is how we rebuild trust between women.
This is how we restore the village.
Why This Matters Now
We live in a world that profits from our disconnection.
When women doubt themselves and each other, we stay small.
But when we reconnect — when we remember who we are and the power we hold together — everything changes.
Healing the sister wound isn’t just about friendships.
It’s about leadership.
It’s about motherhood.
It’s about community and collective healing.
It’s about the way we show up for one another — and for ourselves.
Because when one woman heals, she heals a lineage.
And her healing ripples outward, touching every woman who walks beside her.
An Invitation
If something inside you is stirring as you read this — if you recognise yourself in these words, or feel a quiet ache for something deeper — I want to invite you to join me for a free three-day journey called Healing the Sister Wound.
Together we’ll explore:
✨ The roots of the sister wound and how it has shaped our lives.
✨ The ways it keeps us small, hidden, or afraid to trust.
✨ The gentle path of reconnection — to self, to others, and to the sacred sisterhood that lives beneath it all.
You don’t need to have it all together.
You don’t need to know the right words or have done years of inner work.
You just need a willingness to show up as you are.
That’s more than enough.
Because true sisterhood isn’t about perfection — it’s about presence.
It’s about showing up, heart open, ready to remember.
If you’re ready to begin healing this wound — for yourself, your relationships, and the generations to come —
you can sign up for free and join the circle here:
👉 Join the 3-Day Healing the Sister Wound Journey
You were never meant to walk alone.
You belong.
You always have.
With love,
Laura x
Check out this weeks Podcast to listen to Laura share more on Healing The Sister Wound.
