In this community, we honour the diverse journeys and experiences of each member. Our agreement is designed to foster a sense of belonging and to help us navigate challenges with compassion and understanding. It’s not about rigid rules but about setting intentions to support one another in our growth and healing. We understand that we are all on a journey, and we will occasionally make mistakes. When conflicts arise or discomfort surfaces, our agreement serves as a compass, guiding us back to the values of kindness, inclusivity, and forgiveness.

Compassion: Speak with kindness, apologise when you have made a mistake, listen carefully without judgement. Literally means to suffer with, to feel another’s suffering as if it was our own, and therefore acting like we would wish it for ourselves. Hold the discomfort of another with compassion.

Kindness: Always do your best, be kind to yourself & those around you. With your words & your actions. Random acts of kindness are welcome, but always with consideration of consent & boundaries. Be kind to YOU.

Forgiveness: Don’t take anything personally, understand that others words are more of a reflection on how they feel about themselves. It isn’t about you. Forgive yourself - none of us are perfect & we all make mistakes. Forgiveness is key

Inclusivity: We’re a welcoming & diverse community, open to everybody born and socialised as female, irrespective of faith, who you love, heritage, age, trauma, culture, status. All of you is welcome here, just as you are, always!

Courage: Making changes takes vulnerability & stepping into your own power & strength. Only you can make the first step, with a sisterhood of support behind you.

Non-Judgemental: We all have our own stories, trauma & pain points. We attain to make no judgement on another’s life decisions or truths, how they look, what they wear, how they act. Speak with impeccable words. Mean what you say & if you cannot stand by it, don’t say it!

Radical Acceptance: The respect given to another when listening & witnessing their decisions & choices as their own. Accepting another & allowing each of us to be truly ourselves.

Consent: We work with consent in everything we do within the space, our words, our hugs, our connection, to speak of something, everything always by invitation and with consent.

Triggers: our triggers, are your responsibility. and yours only, there is no blaming and shaming that happens within our space.

Double Confidentiality - we seek to maintain everyones anonymity within the space, this means that what is said within the space, stays in the space, and when we see them in the supermarket, we don’t bring up the thing they discussed in the group to them, once it is said, that is it, they may never want to talk about it again, that way we practice double confidentiality.

Listen to understand ~ Ears and Heart, we seek to offer each sister a deep place of listening, of being heard in all our full expressions of love.

Expect non closure - we are not here to fix anything, or anyone, nobody is broken, therefore, it is unlikely we will get closure from exploring something once in a group or space, we might, but more likely we will open something up for working with later, with a friend, loved one or a therapist. ,

Respond with care - if something needs to be spoken about, you are in a reflective space, agreed in advance, then treat your responses with care.

Right to Ouch - we are not here to sit around and observe, we are here to dive deeper, and some topics and shares, might be very “ouch”, you have a right to your ‘ouch’. Make sure you look after yourself within the space.

Sacred Pause - when in circle we practice the sacred pause. Silence is welcome. You do not have to speak, or continue to speak when something needs space to breathe. Take a pause, come back into the space when you are ready. Sometimes we will take a pause, have a little stretch off, and shakedown between shares, this allows the space to freshen up, and for us to find our listening ears once again.

FRAPing, we seek not to do this in our spaces so what is it?

Fixing - See it as putting a plaster on someone’s wounds, rush in with first aid when actually everyone has everything they need to ‘heal’ from the inside
We have been told that it is not ok for someone to not be ok, although terms like ‘its ok to not be ok’ are popular, we feel an innate desire to fix and help people, often because we struggle to feel uncomfortable.

Rescuing - Trying to ‘ease’ the load by taking on the responsibility of what they are experiencing

We as women are hard-wired to help and be in the rescuer space. Sometimes we might have low-self esteem and so the desire to help comes from a search for dopamine - it feels good to help!

Advising - Telling them things that they can do to get over the point, words like you ‘you should just’
It’s tied to the above things but if we have had something thats worked for us, we want to share it incase it helps! It’s why network marketing works so well!

Projecting - Often the hardest to clock in ourselves. Can be about wounding, can often be ‘assuming’ things they haven’t said.
Often it is unprocessed shadow that causes us to project. Our nervous system is constantly trying to make assumptions about people and we base this on our own experience, so if we know a tiny bit of someones experience we assume the rest and when we tell them, that becomes a projection.

We seek to uphold this agreement within all of our spaces, and we always invite additions to it, for the creation of a safer space for all.