Sacred Code
The Heartbeat of our Sisterhood: Creating Sacred Space Through Trust, Respect, and Love
In a world that has long pitted women against one another - teaching us to compete, distrust, and shrink ourselves - this sisterhood seeks to heal those ancient wounds. For too long, we have been divided by patriarchal structures, by fear, and by the deep-rooted trauma of the Witch Wound. But here, we choose a different path. We come together to rewrite the story, to restore the sacred bonds that once connected us to each other and to our ancestors.
This Sacred Code is more than just a set of guidelines; it is the heartbeat of our community. It is how we choose to walk in the world, how we communicate, how we connect, and how we heal. It is a living, breathing commitment to courage, vulnerability, trust, and love.
Through this code, we begin to mend the fractures caused by centuries of mistrust. We honour each sister’s unique journey, knowing that our strength lies not in competition, but in collaboration. Together, we are weaving a new way - one that is rooted in the wisdom of our ancestors and forged with the courage to be vulnerable and authentic, in this we look to bring about a change for our daughters and our future generations to come.
This is the foundation upon which we stand, the agreement we make to ourselves and each other. By embracing this code, we heal the wounds of the past and reclaim the power of sisterhood. This is how we remember, how we rise, and how we move forward - together - in Sacred Sisterhood.
Compassion
“We begin with kindness.”
In this space, compassion is our foundation. We speak with kindness, knowing that words carry energy and impact. When we listen, we do so with an open heart, without judgment or expectation. And when discomfort arises, we hold space for it with the same gentleness we would offer ourselves. If we cause harm, we apologise not from shame, but from love, understanding that healing begins with accountability.
Kindness
“Kindness begins with me.”
Kindness is both an action and a way of being. We are kind in our words, our actions, and our presence - starting with how we treat ourselves. When we offer kindness to others, we do so with deep respect for their boundaries, always seeking consent. Even in the smallest, most spontaneous acts of kindness, we ensure that the recipient feels safe and seen.
Forgiveness
“We are all learning, all evolving.”
We do not take things personally here. We understand that each of us speaks from our own experience and pain, and that what someone says may reflect their relationship with themselves rather than a reflection of us. We forgive easily, not because it’s always simple, but because we know it frees us to grow. And just as we forgive others, we must forgive ourselves, embracing our imperfections as part of our shared human journey.
Inclusivity
“You belong here.”
Sacred Sister is a home for all women. It doesn’t matter your background, your faith, your life experiences - what matters is that you are here, just as you are. We celebrate diversity, honouring the richness that every woman brings to this space. Here, there is no need to hide, shrink, or mould yourself to fit in. You are accepted fully, in all your complexity and beauty.
Courage
“Vulnerability is strength.”
True growth requires courage, the kind that allows us to be vulnerable. In this sisterhood, vulnerability is not seen as weakness but as the path to reclaiming our power. When you step into this space and into your truth, you are held by a community of women who will support you. You are never alone in your journey.
Non-Judgement
“Your story is yours to tell.”
Every woman carries her own story. In this space, we honour each other’s truths without imposing our judgments or opinions. We understand that each sister has her own journey, and we commit to speaking with intention, respect, and integrity. Our role is not to judge, but to witness and hold space for one another.
Triggers
“We are responsible for our own healing.”
We understand that triggers will arise in a space as deep as this, but we take responsibility for our own emotions and healing. In this sisterhood, there is no space for blame or shame. When we are triggered, we acknowledge it, care for ourselves, and continue to show up with grace and accountability.
Double Confidentiality
“What is shared here, stays here.”
Our space is sacred, and what is shared within it remains within it. We honour each other’s privacy beyond the time we spend together, holding the stories and experiences of our sisters with the utmost respect and confidentiality. We do not speak of something which has been shared, even with the sister that has shared it, once it is spoken, it is done!
Radical Acceptance
“We honour your choices.”
Here, we respect the choices and decisions of others. We do not seek to change, control, or alter anyone’s path. We allow each sister to be her most authentic self, free of judgment or pressure to conform. Radical acceptance is a deep trust in the journey of each woman here.
Consent
“We honour your autonomy.”
Everything in this sacred space - whether it is a conversation, a hug, or an invitation to share - is rooted in consent. We do not assume. We ask. We create an environment where every woman feels empowered to voice her boundaries and trust that they will be honoured.
Listen to Understand
“We listen with our hearts.”
True listening is an act of love. When a sister speaks, we do not listen to respond or fix, but to understand. We offer our full presence, allowing her to express herself fully, knowing she is heard deeply and wholly.
Expect Non-Closure
“Healing is a journey.”
We understand that healing is an ongoing process, and we do not seek quick fixes or easy solutions. We honour the ongoing nature of each woman’s journey and release the need to provide closure. Instead, we hold space for the unfolding of her process, trusting that healing happens in its own time.
Respond with care
“We reflect before responding.”
If a response is necessary, it comes from a place of reflection and care. We ensure that our words are mindful, compassionate, and aligned with the energy of the space, offering them only when the time and setting are right.
Right to Ouch
“Your feelings matter.”
If something hurts, you have the right to say "ouch." You are encouraged to acknowledge your feelings and care for yourself when something feels uncomfortable or triggering. We honour your right to express your truth.
Sacred Pause
“We embrace stillness.”
Silence is a gift in our space. We take moments of stillness to reflect, breathe, and allow the energy to settle before speaking. The sacred pause is an invitation to honor the depth of what is unfolding.
FRAPing
“We trust in your inner wisdom.”
(Fixing, Rescuing, Advising, Projecting)
We resist the urge to fix, rescue, advise, or project onto others. Instead, we trust that each sister has within her the wisdom and strength needed to navigate her own healing. We witness her journey without interference, honouring her inner knowing.
This is the heart of Sacred Sister. By living this code, we heal the wounds of the past and reclaim the deep, authentic connection that has always been our birthright. Together, we remember the old ways while forging new ones, creating a sisterhood rooted in love, trust, and profound transformation.
This is our heartbeat. This is how we rise.